Road Language! Rage Ignites the Integral Fire of DiscomfortOctober 31st, 2011 by Thea Pueschel
One day, in the not so distant past, the same car cut me off 3 times across 3 lanes at 6:45 AM. I had a thought, one that was none to nice. I felt the upset displeasure in my stomach arise as I connected the driver to expletives in my mind. I took note, as I associated the jeep to a variety of colorful adjectives, verbs and nouns. I physically felt every word. I noticed that when the colorful expletives filled with judgment were the reaction, I would carry that feeling post-event.
The next day when I was driving in the early morning, I made a conscious thought not to associate inconsiderate experiences to a colorful array of vocabulary. I instead thought, “You know, I have done that I am sure, and those vocab words learned in elementary school probably found their way to the lips of other drivers I have wronged.” As I did this I noticed the physical reaction to the event ease. The fight/flight surrendered.
Negative emotions arise and though we cannot control our emotions, we can control our reactions to them. When someone cuts you off and you slam on your brakes to avoid hitting them your fight/flight kicks in. Challenge yourself to react but let it go. Our body speaks our mind. By activating negative language, you are activating the integral fire of discomfort. By re-framing and identifying with the action you release and lessen the reaction.
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